"An usual pre-conceived notion of being everyone's source of happiness is woman" in our society.
She's appreciated if
She is mute, doesn't spill truth
She obeys, respects your desires
She cares, labors herself days and nights 24*7 without complaints
She be a "female"
In a way when she knows her limits,
Boundaries and rules may be set by you! She be
Under your control as puppet!
And still
She's being objectified, mocked, disrespected, optioned!
Gone are the years when female infanticides happened, while early abortions are still ongoing.
Earlier when people realized howsoever, chose burdening selves by giving births, victimized their girls for early marriages, caged them within societal norms.
When to laugh, when to sit, when to cry, when to shy, when to shut!
It leaves my heart heavy when not someone, but her mother grows her up this way and still whenever she chose herself over everything, she's being defined: sometimes arrogant, sometimes rude, and mostly characterless!
Women in other words: "A human made to compromise and sacrifice"
And society call it adjustments!
God, somebody please find them the words in dictionary- Adjustment; Compromise; Sacrifice and help them understand the difference, especially their intensity!
Such a hypocrisy people lead especially women. I see them saying "Aurat hi aurat ki dushmann hoti hai" and then they end up being Dushmann. They know how they've led their lives, but they also know how to make their upcoming female generations continue their legacy. Deep dug in the society, discrimination is sown before crop matures for harvesting.
Although breeze has taken a turn and the weather has changedsomewhat, yet still!
Now this is for you...
To all the women here,
You are not weak, you don't need permission
You are self reliant and capable
You are not obligated to make everyone happy
You are also a human with emotions
You don't need to be dependent
You are here to follow your dreams and yes,
Its your responsibility to keep yourself happy. So,
Oh well, certainly a relationship binding two lovers, in most of some people's language- a boyfriend and a girlfriend in a typical love story.
How Confined! Isn't it?
A four letter word is confined to set boundaries of some love stories like Romeo and Juliet's or Heer and Ranjha's!
Before I start,
What do you regard as love? How do you define it?
May be a mesmerizing beauty, an insane feeling which leaves no space at subconsciousness of the person to feel other vibrations than "Love".
May be the eye contact, the special treatment, the promises.
May be bartering of the emotions, especially griefs or
May be on materialistic side: the gifts, money, bill payments or
May be touch (to this-love is highly misunderstood and often co-related with lust)
In my words,
Love is not what we see as, or whom we relate to. Love is all together an emotion. It is much and much more than the words we often fail to explain, heavier than a cloud, deeper than an ocean, sometimes more than words, or at times speechless, sometimes harder than a rock, softer than a fur, leaving mostly undeciphered.
How?
When I said it is not whom we relate to, I meant they are not only couples, they can be
Father and son/daughter
Mother and son/daughter
Teacher and student
Siblings
Friends or may be
Nature, Animals
God
When I called out these relations (true ones), what makes love prominent is
It stays even you are far, and when you're close
You know the warmth being around them
It understands, respects the other being, and
You know how secure you are
It doesn't hold grudges and set no hard feelings back and
You feel ease at vibing around other
It doesn't restrict one's freedom and there you can be you
It doesn't come with expectations, it only knows how and how much to give
Simply, with no intimacy
This is LOVE and this is how it should be no matter which relation you are in.
No paths are always smooth, even the darkest nights are covered together.
Deep inside we all know this, then why do we miss out and often fail to realize the worth of most underestimated, undermined priceless emotion, often held behind EGO.
Shuuuu off your ego, add love, spread it, the more you give, the more you get 💝
And now the title would be sounding Satirical to you!
So far, our ears have adapted to hear Noteworthy Failures Accomplishments, but I am talking about Failures.
What if I say you can turn your failures into accomplishments..Stunned!
The chronology of life
From being a child, getting less than passing marks is "Fail",
To with passing age, not getting job conversions is "Fail",
To Start with ventures, and not upholding to the market expectations leading to losses, perhaps shutdown is "Fail"
We "Fail" at different stages of life, with passing years and probably till death, we Fail.
Fail doesn't imply "the end" of life AND
You do not fail unless you accept "that" as your failure!
Life goes up and down, mostly south. You start, try, build, and then you fall (falling is not failure).
Life comes with hardest of the hard struggles and it has no "hard" corner for you, it wants you to shine.
Everyone is capable of something on their own and you are the only Answer to yourself!
Remember, every time you start and fall and then start, you don't start from the beginning.....you start from where you left and that's when you actually learn to challenge all the failures.
Let them come, accept them and win.
And count them for long as "Noteworthy Failures".....
You don't want, but criticisms follow you no matter wherever you are!
We overthink! Probably cry! Walk into depression! and what not!
Certainly those are everybody's individual experience..,but I have a question Is it really worth taking those criticisms too seriously?
We don't realize, the moment we take them, we allow giving them enough space to get deepen into severe thoughts which result in ruining ourselves in most of the ways. We drain our energy, disrupt our peace and most importantly, that we apparently lose to understand its importance at times and that is "time".
We perhaps end up losing ourselves to such criticisms and thus, spacing for them to become our weakness.
What if I say you can change yourself in a way that you start taking them rather as your "Strength" and make your strength completely.
Shocked!
It is easy.
**It starts with Avoidance. Avoid as much as you can. Do not answer where it is not so important, when someone does not mean to you, when someone cannot actually be explained...
The reason why I highlighted these situations is because they have actually "no relevance" in your life.
**And then Brush-off Yes, the moment you gotta get to start with avoiding such situations, you were already in the phase of ignoring such negativity and now you know how to ignore.
You are at peace! You are happy and probably the happiest person you'd ever been in your life!
You know what I have incorporated this in my life and now I am a person who invites criticisms because that's how I grow 😊
Why is
tomato red or why some of the bell peppers yellow/red, while most of the
veggies are green!
Why okra
has always been all ages’ favorite, while some of us don’t even like karela;
bitter gourd!
Why Dragon
fruit, Kiwi are all time high, while guava and bananas have been so affordable
till date?
Think of a
situation that would have ever arisen amongst these vegetables and fruits. So,
many of us would have oathed of never having veggies other than the vegetables
that are green, yes! Okra (or take your fav veggie) would have always been our
lunch and dinner and we would have probably never thought of buying Kiwi which is so valuable.
Ages and centuries, generations after generations have been “passed” and
Differentiation has also been
“passed”. I have personally been encountering differentiation in the society
not as a victim, but seeing others being. Take all destitute(s) and Richie(s),
General and OBCs, males and females, literates and illiterates, blacks
and whites, Hindu and Muslims and their religions. The contagious disease is
immortal in the mortal beings and will remain till eternity. So, we are not
left with any solution? You might be questioning or perhaps not. This too has a
solution and the most we can do is to help eradicating it from the society
because we are after-all humans. How
can we expect unity when unity itself denies to unify! It comes to ‘India-as a
whole’ when it comes to war, war against Pakistan, war against China and now
corona else this is not India, this is Southern India (or take for any other
region)! The Hindu religion is said to have been existing far before than any
other religion had ever been! The only religion which exist is Islam! Who was
born first? Tamil, Telugu are the oldest languages! Ramayana was written by
Valmiki first! Jainism is the best religion of all, following ‘Ahimsa Parmo
Dharma’ and you must follow! and so on…..
Males have always
been a dominant part, the Patriarchy. Despite being women empowerment,
educations on “equality”, females are still apart from many privileges indeed!
The biggest factor of all is nothing more than a woman “herself”. Yes, if she
had ever understood her worth, then it would have been easier to explain others
that she’s also a human like a man is, that she owns her life too, but not and
even some of us could, then our ancestors had been successful in intervening
and make them walk on-to their choices of living. A woman is taught
to be calm, respecting, obedient, and all those “gund” a daughter in law is expected to
possess before being in her husband's house. Fine! I am not denying to follow
the track of goodness but it is only ‘she’ who needs to be told or expected.
Has anyone thought of applying the same in girl’s In-law home too? Has anyone?
Has anyone taught each other or probably themselves to be generous and
respecting to the woman who is to come to their homes?
No, I think
we never. If we had ever done this, the word ‘clashes’, ‘fights’ would have
hardly existed. Now, please do not even start to explain- a female is bound to
bind the families or a female is birthed to follow all rituals, customs,
sayings, etc…etc… because she is a ‘woman’, a ‘girl’. Stop! Up until this
‘equality’ had ever come, all things from being a daughter to daughter in law,
from being a girl to a mother, from being a sister to a wife be it in any
season, any situation/so-called rities, rivazs were followed and implied on
women. Until this EQUALITY had come! Till now you must have assessed or judged
me as ‘Feminist’. No, you are not wrong! I am a Feminist.
What has
education done to us? Has this been successful in broadening our mindset? Has
that made you to move on the track of Justice? Has this really made you a
‘human’? Enough of questions. Well, I would never blame Education for being a
character in you, making you to function this way, that way or your way. If ‘education’
had been the sole reason in impacting our ‘behavior’, then we might have got to
see their direct relationship. India wouldn’t have got Modi ji as our hon’ble
Prime Minister and Vijay Mallaya as country’s deceiver. Their intelligence,
mental stability, functioning and their decisions prove that they haven’t got
rooted by education. Our activities are actually not governed by education,
while somewhat it apparently influences one. Now, please answer me, does this
anyway define illiteracy/literacy? Do we need to judge people on the basis of
their education or qualification? Does the above has any reference to or
anything to do with one’s being literate or illiterate? If no, then why do we
do this? Why do we make judgements? Or why do we make illiterates or uneducated
the part of mockery?
----- Your
literacy calls another illiterate! How your comment makes you literate then?
India has
inadequate ironies. The irony of being a 55% or 60% scorer over all while mere
graduation cannot land you with good employment and by good, I mean one’s
position or salary. The irony of being creative and talented but Corporates
judge you on the basis of your marks/grades. If education had been the base,
then a 10th standard student wouldn’t have got success in attaining
the total worth of Reliance as 25.6 billion dollars in 2002. Think!
The irony
of calling whites as the only beauty. Even roses are black and they do smell
the same as others and I guess, everybody likes it and even do I. How do you
define beauty? Don’t we worship deities like Kalratri or Krishna? Don’t we? Thanks
to our audiences and amazing celebs who are promoting fairness creams in the
market and making those innocents feel down! Gods and Goddesses have never seen
this being the discriminating factor, neither for themselves nor for the humans
and nature he gave birthed to, then who are we to decide what is ugly and what
is beautiful? What sooths our eyes? Who can fit to the society and who cannot!
I request those who make the differences to kindly walk a mile in their (the
sufferers) shoes. Empathize please.
Last is the
most common difference we face in our day to day routines, The Religion!
The
choice of admiring one’s religion is not at all bad, the problem arises when we
consider our religion superior to others or demean other
religions in front of ours’. In simple terms, Religion is a worship of
God/idols or a faith in personal God. Personal God? Personal
god has nothing to do with your beloved idol, but it is a worship of someone as
a person, say Father in Christianity, Pandits/Saints in Hindus, etc. However,
Religion does not end here and neither starts from here. Religion in another word is ‘Philanthrophy’ meaning Love for Mankind. Religion relates to ‘Humanity’,
being religious means being humane, humane to all humans despite their all
odds and evens, to all animals and nature surrounding us. It is a respect we
honor to all beings, all livings and passives evolving in the ecosystem. Religion
has its existence over art, music, dance, festivals, funerary services,
meditation, prayer, matrimonial ceremonies and the other activities such.
Religion tells the origin of life, its purpose. Moreover, Faith is the source
of religious beliefs, it exists if you consider, if you don’t then you are
religiously unaffiliated atheist and if you question upon its existence then
you are agnostic. Now let me just question on the irony being arisen here. How
can an atheist be away from the activities mentioned above? (because all those
are connected with religion)
Say cooking,
cooking is an art and for this art we require raw food viz rice, wheat flour
and the most importantly fire. Don’t we worship their lords? Don’t we respect
food? Take music, for every instrument/vocal, we gotta get to learn the
initials Sa, Re, Ga, Ma, we start from there and we worship them parallelly
being devoted to Maa Saraswati. Festivals such as auspicious Holi, Diwali,
Christmas, Eid, Baisakhi can never find their meanings without being
worshipped. The couple is said to take Saat Pheras, the rotation happens around
agni. Religion is not only about casteism or worshipping of idols. From coming
in the world to cremation of human body is religion per se.
Over 10000s
of Religions exist worldwide, but fighting in the name sake of Secularism is
not prudence. It is the beauty of India that we get to see so much of
diversity. We get to celebrate these festivals; we get to worship every idol. I
find this “India’s Beauty” and literally our country is ‘incredible’.
Indigenousness
gets at stake when superiority forms the layer over your religion and even the
humanity becomes a big question on humans when discrimination finds its peak.
Let all join our hands, come together and stand as one, as humans and most importantly as Indians. Jai Hind
